- Can a woman be forced into marriage in Islam?
Absolutely
not! Let us look at what Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
said regarding this issue:
Abu
Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may
peace be upon him) as having said: "A
woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must not be married
until she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married until her
permission is sought. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be
upon him): How her (virgin's) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy
Prophet) said: That she keeps silence. (Translation
of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008,
Number 3303)"
Allah
Almighty said in the Noble Quran: "O
ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will.
Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part
of the dower [money given by the
husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye
have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness;
on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity.
If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and
God brings about through it a great deal of good. (The
Noble Quran, 4:19)"
The
following Saying is an explanation to Noble Verse 4:19:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "About
the Qur'anic verse: 'It is not lawful for you forcibly to inherit the
woman (of your deceased kinsmen), nor
(that) ye should put constraint upon them.'
When a man died, his relatives had more right to his wife then her
own guardian. If
any one of them wanted to marry her, he did so; or they married
her (to
some other person), and if they did not want to marry her, they did
so. So
this verse was revealed about the matter. (Translation
of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number
2084)"
So
according to Noble Verse 4:19, a woman can not be forced into
marriage by any mean.
Narrated
Abu Hurayrah: "The Prophet
(peace_be_upon_him) said: An orphan virgin girl should be consulted
about herself; if she says nothing that indicates her permission, but
if she refuses, the authority of the guardian cannot be exercised
against her will. (Translation
of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2088)"
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Umar: "The Prophet
(peace_be_upon_him) said: Consult women about (the marriage of) their
daughters. (Translation of
Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2090)"
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "A virgin came to
the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had
married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him)
allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation
of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2091)"
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "The Prophet
(peace_be_upon_him) said: A guardian has no concern with a woman
previously married and has no husband, and an orphan girl (i.e.
virgin) must be consulted, her silence being her
acceptance. (Translation of
Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2095)"
The
above Noble Verse 4:19 and the Sayings of our beloved Prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him clearly explain that according to Islam,
whether the woman is virgin or not, her permission is a MUST.
Her father or older brother can not force her into marriage as the
Pagan Arabs and the Jews and Christians before Islam in the Middle
East used to do; see Deuteronomy 25:5 in
the Bible to see how women are forced into marriage.
Can
the woman divorce herself from a forced marriage upon her?
As
we've seen above, it is clearly forbidden in Islam to force women
into marriage. But in case this ever should happen or have
happened already to any woman, then Islam allows for her to divorce
herself from the man she was forced to marry. Let us read the
following:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas: "A virgin came to
the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had
married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him)
allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation
of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2091)"
The
choice that our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him gave to
the woman is she can either remain married to the man, or divorce
herself from him.
La naturaleza de la relación entre el hombre y la mujer en el Islam.
La relación debería ser integradora no competitiva.
Hawaa (Eva) no fue creada como Adam, sino que fue creada de él.
"Y de él (Adam) Él creó a su esposa (Hawaa(Eva))" [An-Nisa':1]
Así que si él la oprime, el estaría oprimiendo su corazón. Y si ella
se vuelve arrogante y se vuelve como un hombre, será terriblemente visto!
Aishah Aish
